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25….hello. i’m having a few troubles with one of my guy friends, but i’m not sure what he is anymore. we’ve never dated, but it seems like we both like each other more than friends. we’re both very similar, and most of the time, we’re arguing and throwing witty comebacks at each other. we have a lot of things in common, and we both hurt each other (mentally). but here’s the thing - at the beginning of this school year, we made this…agreement type thing that was supposed to help us have a better/friendlier relationship this year, except it just resulted in us not really talking to each other anymore. i’ve been trying to keep my distance so that we won’t argue as much, but i’ve found out that he’s been telling people that i talked to him when i actually didn’t. one of my guy friends who goes to school with him said that he seems to be making up stuff that “seems to be aimed at getting my attention.” what do you think he’s trying to tell me, or is he over it too?

    We think it’s not really about what he wants to tell you. It’s more of a reputation or trying to get your attention thing for him. If he’s over it he wouldn’t waste his time. We have nothing else to say.

24. is this cheating .. your ex’s family invites you to a wedding reception and you accept because you guys are friends, so your in a relationship also and you told your partner about it that your going to a wedding reception with a friend .. also, after the wedding reception, it was after 3am, and your friends mother said for you to stay over because it was too late for her to drive far, so you stayed over for the night but also slept in the parents room. in the morning, the family decided to watch a film than drive you home after and you agreed, but the whole time your ex put his arm around you … in my head i believe it can be cheating and i feel i should be honest with my partner but im not too sure?? im scared, i need helppp pleaseeeeee

Well, right then & there, did you have feelings for him? If it is, it’s called mental cheating. But it’s not really cheating because you guys didn’t really connect romantically or anything. Sometimes, when things gets awkward, & you dont know what to do, you just let it happen. You didn’t do anything with him, so you’re Good. & you should tell your partner, i mean, relationship is all about trusts & honesty, so tell him/her the truth, they should be able to understand it. If your partner gets mad, then, ensure them that you have no feeling for your ex whatsoever. Good Luck

23. So I took a day trip up north yesterday. On my way back home I stopped at a gas station about 30 minutes from where I live. I went inside and there was a cute friendly guy working at the counter. We started chit-chatting right away. I’m really into funny guys and he was teasing me and making me laugh. When I turned to leave after talking to him for a while, he calls out “Hey so do you have a phone number by any chance?”. I have had bad experiences with giving my phone number to strangers before…the guy always ends up being creepy or weird. So for some reason my instinct was to say “I’m sorry, I have to go”. And I turned and walked out. AS SOON as I got back on the highway I began to regret my decision. He was a nice friendly funny guy that didn’t live too far from me. I could have at least given him my name so he could find me on facebook! I don’t know what I was thinking. Some of my friends think I should go back there the same time next week and see if he’s working. Some think I should call the gas station and ask if he’s working. Problem is I don’t know his name! Should I just forget this and move on? Or should I gain some confidence and pursue this? If so, how do I go about it? For some reason I keep thinking about it. HELP please!

We’re so sorry for the SUPER late reply, School has been pretty hectic. But if you still want our advice, here it is:

First see if he’s there. If in that 30 minute drive he’s there, then take the change. If he’s not there, then it’s not fate at all. But the gas station isn’t the only place you might meet him. If it’s meant to be, then you’ll meet him again. But there are SO many guys in the world, we’re sure that you’ll find another guy who’s cuter & that he will make your world go round.

22. So I like this guy that lives in another town, an both of our parents know each other so i think it would be kinda akward. And before when i didnt like him he still liked me eventhough i turned him down, but now im still worried about the parent thing? I dont know what to do?

mhmmm, we’re confused. so you turned him down before, and now that you like him, he still likes you? Welll, if your parents let you date, then they shouldn’t have a problem with this guy, since they know his parents and all, then they’ll trust you more. & if they don’t let you date, then keep it a secret, who says parents have to know?(= 

21. I’m a former cutter, I advise NEVER to do it. I told me ex-boyfriend when we were dating that I was one, I thought I could trust him. Now that were broken up, he uses my past about cutting against me. I just want him to stop telling me to go cut myself out of random. It really hurts me when he tells me these things, even though were broken up. He said after we broke up we would be friends, but I don’t know what to do. :\

Awww, don’t cut yourself, It’s not worth it. But this guy, we’re actually glad you’re not with him anymore. Those people shouldn’t be trusted. And most of the time when a relationship ends, the phrase “we can be friends” are usually mention, but that’s not always what happen. It’s hard being friends with someone who’s hurt and confused after a breakup. Anywho, you should approach him and ask him why he’s going around saying those things. And don’t go around telling people bad things about him, that would just make you as evil as he is. I say, talk to him, find out the reason why he’s doing that and ask him politely to stop, if he won’t, there’s always the door, walk away from it. If you keep ignoring him, he’ll eventually stop. Bullies only pick on you if you react to their bullying. Good Luck!

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20. I’ve loved this guy for the longest time. When I finally thought I had no chance and started to get over him, he told me his true feelings and told me he loves me. I don’t want anyone else, but I don’t know if I like this guy or not? What do I do?

In my opinion, i think that you should start to hang out with him. But make sure that he doesnt think that you’re into him just yet. Be sure that you like him, like really like him before you tell him, so you dont break his heart. That’s the last thing you’d want to do. & if you’re planning to make him wait for you like what he did to you, Dont even think about it. Most guys have a tendency to just  give up right away, and you’ll miss your chance. & Guys! If you’re reading this, dont give up so easily, give effort into wanting her! Fight for your women! that’s SEXY, & girls love that(;

19. My friend’s boyfriend is causing our group to fall apart. My friend tried to break up with her boyfriend twice already but she’s too nice to dump him since he started crying?! One person already walked out of our group because of him but now, the majority of us can’t take it anymore… What can I do to make our group not fall apart & to make them break-up because my friend also doesn’t want to be with him anymore since she caught him cheating on her already? Is breaking up with him the right choice…?

Tell your friend she needs to get her confidence up and tell her boyfriend DONE IS DONE. He already cheated on her, so why bother keeping him. So YES, breaking up with him is the right choice. He’s not worth it at all.

18. I reeeeeally like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. What’s worse is that he’s a football player, he’s tall, and he’s pretty much freakin’ amazing. I have nothing to offer, but I like him so much. I can’t even talk to him, but he sits on the other side ofthe room in my English class. Is this just a pipe dream? Or is there actual hope for me?

You should respect his relationship, and wait. Most middle school and or high school relationships has its ending. It may take a while, it may not. There is always hope for everyone. It’s just the time that’s not great for everyone. 

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17. If a you & a guy get hella close & play around & flirt with each other, what does that tell you? That is currently happening to me. He talks to me all the time, he puts his arms around me, & plays around with me a lot. I like him & the things he does. But I don’t think he likes me. It’s like, he’s that kind of guy who doesn’t want to get involved with girls. But he’s giving me mixed signals, also. How can I get him to like me, & ask me to be his girlfriend? It’s sad that I’m just waiting for him & I’m very close to giving up…

I love how what you guys are going through, we’re either going through the same things or we have already went throught that phase. Haha, so my story is the same thing, except that I’m the one who doesnt want a relastionship. So if he plays around and flirt with you, it can have two meanings. One, he’s just a player. Two, he really truly likes you. If you want to know if he likes you, when you guys are talking, slip in the questions, “SO, who do you like?” Sometimes, they’ll tell you & sometimes they wont. If they dont, then fool around with them for a bit and ask them to give you hints! If it’s you, Congratulations, You’ll probably be his girlfriend sooner than later. If it’s not, don’t sweat, sugga. if he usually doesn’t date, he probably wont be a good boyfriend material either. Hahah, dont give up until you’re sure that he doesnt like you(; there’s always a possibility<3

16.Oh yeah, haha. Forgot to mention that. No, we’re not together anymore because he broke up with me. He was feeling guilty since he still thought about his ex. ironic, right? But idunno, he’s really sweet though. And, now I’m just confused about what I want: my first, true love who I still have unrequited feelings for…or the guy who loves me despite my flaws?

Dear, I think for now, it’s best to let go of the one you love. “If you love something, let it. If it comes back, then it was always yours, if it doesn’t, it never was.” Let it go for now and see where that leads you. You just have to be strong. I’ve learned that if I pretend something, that soon it’ll happen. It might not be true, but it helped me. Just show that you are happy and have fun! And now for the guy that loves you. Well, first of all, do you have any feelings towards him? If not, then just let him go. If you think that maybe someday you’d feel something towards him,  then give it time. But if you DO have feelings for him right now, also give it time. You wouldn’t want to be going out w/ a guy when you still have strong feelings for your ex. If he really loves you, he’d wait for you to let go of your ex. He should hopefully understand. Just give it time.

15. How can I get this guy to like me, besides being myself. & how can I get over my ex when we had unforgettable memories together? he doesn’t even talk to me ever since our breakup when he promised me he’d be there for me through thick&thin. how can i make this happen?

First of all, you should think of what would happen if the guy you like were to like you back. You’d need to get over your ex to be able to have a committed relationship with the guy you like. So, to get over the guy you like, it’s best that you guys don’t talk. I’ve somewhat been through this, but I was able to get over him, by us having no contact. I know it’s unforgettable, but we’re still young, we’ll soon grow up and get over it. And that promise of his could be true, but maybe right now is not the time. Sure he said “Through think and thin”, but anyone can say that and not mean. Been there. It hurts for a while, but just go out, have fun, keep your mind occupied to forget your ex. Now with the next problem. Play it cool. Try to talk to him and flirt with him. Get to know each other and see where that leads you.

14. You make it sound so easy. But I’m afraid my situation is SO much more complicated than that. I’m in love with my ex, who used to love me too, but is now in love with his ex. And the guy that loves me? Yeah, well, we used to date and everything felt right. It seems like we’re perfect for each other, but I don’t think i have the capability to love him the way he wants me to. And it hurts him so much. Which I can obviously relate to. So, I guess I’m in a love rectangle? Wow, I suck at explaining this.

You have to Think it’s easy, to make it easy. so, the guy that loves you now, is he still with you or not? cause knowing the answer to that question will make it much easier to answer this problem. In my opinion, the easiest way to solve it is too take a break from ALLLL of those people you just mentioned. if you cant, then try not to hang out with them as much. and like i said before, meet new people. it’s the funnest way to forget all your problems. Try it, & get back at us, if it doesnt work, we’ll help you get over them boys(=

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